Being a Godly Man: Taming Our Tongues by Steve Hartt

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.” James 3:9

The tongue has been labeled by some as the strongest muscle in the body. While that fact may be up for debate there is no denying the tongue can be the most destructive muscle. It is interesting to occasionally hear men speak with their wives or children in ways they would never think of speaking to a neighbor, co-worker or friend.

As godly men we are called upon to demonstrate patience and restraint when we speak. “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” are instructions given to us in James 1:19. When conflicts arise it is our responsibility to tap into the Holy Spirit to seek guidance and wisdom regarding our response. We need to learn to be responsive rather than reactive in trying situations.

A man is reactive when he immediately responds to a situation without giving proper thought to his actions and words. A man is responsive when he takes a moment to reflect on the situation at hand and ultimately acts and speaks in a manner that brings glory to God.

As leaders in our homes and communities we should set an example for others by demonstrating the ability to respond to all situations with a Christ-like heart. And this begins by learning to tame our tongues.

“A man finds joy in giving an apt reply – and how good is a timely word!” Proverbs 15:23

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